It didn’t occur throughout a long term or a race or some overly formidable power exercise I found someplace.
Nope. I injured my knee crawling on the ground, attempting to foam roll my again after a hormonal ambush that left me feeling like I’d aged a 3 many years in a single day. Severely…crawling!
My decrease again had seized up — a kind of “breathe by means of it or scream” form of spasms that caught round for the weekend that appear to come back customary with midlife and perimenopause. I already was often exhausted, foggy, infected, uncomfortable in my pores and skin, and now? Crawling throughout the ground to feed the cat and relieve my backbone. And in the course of that very glamorous, very on a regular basis second — one thing shifted in my knee. One thing that wouldn’t un-shift.
Actually, I didn’t even suppose it was something as I didn’t discover the ache till the again immediately was nearly as good as almost new a number of days later.
I’d later study I had torn my meniscus. I additionally had underlying arthritis, which had gone undetected till now. Surgical procedure wasn’t an choice — or a minimum of, not a great one on account of the place the tear was and the arthritis. Eradicating a part of the meniscus (which is what is completed), may truly make the arthritis worse. So, no surgical procedure. No fast repair. And, it turned out, no extra operating — a minimum of not the best way I had recognized it. I will even observe right here that surgical procedure is often an choice for a lot of, except different points; and the meniscus can heal with out as nicely. The larger image of the damage, arthritis, and different challenges is my impediment. Many can return to their regular actions after restoration.
What made this all even more durable — and truthfully, extra emotionally loaded — is that I had already been struggling to come back again from one thing huge. One thing scary. One thing that had taken a bit of me I hadn’t totally gotten again but.
A motorbike crash.
It occurred some time again, and it wasn’t minor, a minimum of to me. I broke my enamel. My chin. My jaw (I came upon later). I hit onerous — bodily and emotionally. It rattled my confidence in a method I didn’t anticipate. I couldn’t converse correctly for some time. I needed to rebuild extra than simply my physique. I needed to rebuild belief. Within the bike. In my physique. In myself.
The method was lengthy. (Nonetheless going too!) Slower than I wished. Some days have been higher than others, however I used to be making progress. I used to be therapeutic. I used to be lastly beginning to consider I may perhaps make a comeback — even when it was simply to really feel sturdy once more. To really feel like an athlete once more. To really feel like me once more.
After which… this.
The knee. The hormonal chaos. The identification spiral. All of it hit like a second wave earlier than I’d even completed treading water from the primary one.
It felt merciless.
It felt just like the universe had watched me claw my method again towards one thing like confidence and mentioned, “Wait — not but.”
I used to be already within the midst of rebuilding. Already navigating post-trauma bodily therapeutic. Already afraid of how fragile all the things felt. After which I bought harm once more.
I imply, actually?
It’s onerous to clarify what that does to you mentally. While you’re already within the thick of restoration and attempting to remain optimistic, after which your physique says, truly, we’re not carried out with setbacks but — that’s the form of factor that cracks one thing open inside you.
And it did. For some time.
I spiraled. I questioned all the things. I felt ashamed that my comeback was extra like a quiet retreat. I watched others race whereas I sat out. I in contrast. I cried. I bought indignant. And I felt — truthfully — a bit of damaged.
However I additionally stored going. Slower. Softer. Extra cautiously. However nonetheless going.
As a result of the reality is, therapeutic isn’t linear. Comebacks aren’t at all times loud or quick or dramatic. Typically they seem like one small factor at a time: a stroll. A swim. A shift in your interior dialogue. A refusal to cease even when all the things feels onerous.
I’m nonetheless therapeutic. I most likely at all times might be, indirectly. However I haven’t give up. And that counts for one thing. Truly, it counts for lots.
Not lengthy after my bike crash occurred, my physique began feeling overseas. I used to be gaining weight regardless of doing “all the best issues,” not sleeping, feeling puffy, moody, and never mentally outfitted to make sense of any of it. My favourite garments — classic attire I’ve beloved a lot — stopped becoming. And so did the model of myself I used to be used to seeing within the mirror. (Reflecting again I do know this occurred even sooner than this — a bit of one thing right here, and there.)
I wasn’t feeling sturdy. I wasn’t feeling attractive. I wasn’t even feeling useful some days.
And I didn’t know what to do about it.
This wasn’t only a health setback. It was an identification disaster.
I’ve been an athlete now for fairly a number of years. A triathlete. A runner. A coach. A mover. Terri in movement… Somebody who will get by means of life by transferring by means of it. And now, I wasn’t transferring the best way I used to be used to — and all the things began to spiral. I didn’t really feel like me. And truthfully, I didn’t know be sort to myself by means of it.
The worst half? Since I’m not I began evaluating.
At first, it was refined — a scroll by means of social media, seeing somebody cross a end line or publish their post-race brunch photograph. However then it turned a deeper ache. End line photographs. Leaping medal pics (I used to be at all times too clumsy for these, however now I missed not even with the ability to strive). Sweaty selfies. Associates my age and older — teammates, purchasers, even strangers — finishing races and searching stuffed with pleasure, vitality, and ease.
It harm.
I used to be joyful for them. I’m joyful for them. However I used to be additionally jealous — one thing I hardly ever admit, however must say out loud. Jealous of their means. Their well being. Their vitality. Their choices. I didn’t select to cease operating. My physique made the selection for me. And I resented it for that.
And right here’s the twist: I’m a coach. A life coach. A motion skilled. I assist individuals navigate transitions and setbacks. I ought to’ve been higher outfitted. However I wasn’t. I used to be grieving. And that grief was layered — not only for the damage, however for the physique I now not acknowledged, the boldness that had quietly slipped away, and the identification I feared I had misplaced.
I began saying issues to myself I might by no means say to a shopper or a good friend. I felt like my physique gave up on me and took all the things I beloved — coaching, racing, belonging — with it.
And but, slowly… I stored going.
I began rowing once more. I introduced my elliptical again into my routine. I started strolling — to not set a PR, however to really feel regular in a physique that now not felt like mine. I power skilled. I swam once I may. I iced my knees. I stretched. I cried. I wrote. I talked to my cat (who, in his protection, is a superb listener).
And someplace in that very imperfect course of, I remembered: I’m nonetheless right here.
I’m nonetheless an athlete. Even when I’m not racing.
I’m nonetheless a coach. Even once I don’t have all of it found out.
I’m nonetheless me. Simply… in a brand new season.
The bodily therapeutic is ongoing — each knees nonetheless act up. I nonetheless can’t run. Not but. Possibly not ever the best way I used to. However I’m discovering different methods to maneuver. To attach. To breathe. And to reclaim my physique and my identification, one step at a time.
I’ve missed lots of races — races I optimistically signed up for, hoping to make a comeback. However now, I’m eyeing a number of that I’d stroll. Proudly. Joyfully. Not as a runner who’s misplaced one thing, however as a girl who’s found one thing else: resilience.
One of the stunning and delightful elements of all this has been the conversations. The extra I’ve shared, the extra others have opened up — ladies nodding in solidarity, males asking how they will assist their companions (not repair them — assist). We’re beginning to speak about perimenopause, menopause, and post-menopause extra overtly. And we’ve got to.
As a result of this? It’s actual. It’s disruptive. And for many people, it’s invisible — a minimum of till we title it. Our grandmothers, moms, aunts, and even sisters may not have talked about it, however we are able to. We have to.
And sure — a few of the signs could make us really feel “previous” (no matter meaning). Once I’m mendacity in mattress within the morning, attempting to take a seat up with out making sound results, I really feel like a turtle on its again, attempting to navigate a flip over. However I additionally really feel one thing else now: a way of possession. A deep, evolving self-awareness. A quieter power. Even neighborhood at occasions.
As a result of I’ve made it by means of the worst of this storm — not untouched, however unbroken.
And that’s one thing value leaping for — metaphorically, in fact.
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